Time never heals: Lets give credit to ourselves

They say time heals. But let me ask you how, as I beg to differ.

It is we who make a change and shift in focus by engaging ourselves in aspects other than fighting our losses and defeats. It is we who make our thought process devoid of the sadness we went through. It is we who make a dramatic change in our mindset towards the dark clouds that befell in our past. So why do we say that time plays a big role here. As the wounds and scars always remains in the deepest corners of our hearts. As our heart is too irreparably and thoroughly broken, the darkness does not choose to evade. It reveals its diabolic image. It is we who put the blanket over the darkness that has shrouded on us due to unwanted circumstances.

We are taking the time forward and letting things heal. If we keep on brooding over spilt milk again and again and chew over the same fodder, letting others believe that we can never let go of the past, then time can never heal us. We will not forget the misunderstandings, the ill-feelings that others have towards us, the relationship that fell apart, the loss of a loved one, the job that we never could qualify because of corporate politics and other sad stuff. The scab remains forever showing the phase of sadness that surpassed us.

I have seen people who never could heal after breakups and loss of loved ones. The bride’s family who go all the way to cater to all the whims and fancies of the groom’s family but see the girl drown in the abuse and violence. These things take enough power to be able to forget and yet it could not be forgiven. So the scars remain giving out a great degree of negativity. One certainly could not come out of their past in this case. The truth lingers forever like the albatross around one’s neck. On the contrary, I have seen some people who get out of their grief and go ahead. Get themselves a makeover, a change of place, new hobbies that stir their soul and fuels their mind, and other fun aspects. Only to lessen the pain and the heaviness that comes with it. They control the time, the time of suffering, and let it heal.

Moving on, if one thinks that the certain issue is not a major one and give themselves a new leaf to start afresh then they have moved on. They will think that every day heralds a new freshness.  It is not the time that speaks at that point but we humans do. We are the one who gets the reality and practicality of the nature and the situation. We accept. Understand the perspective. Pick up the pieces. Believe in ourselves and store the confidence in bulk. And move on. Definitely it is not a duck soup, but it is our choice to remain gloomy forever or take things under control and go ahead with our life.

So next time if someone says to the broken heart that time will heal it then give them back a fitting reply saying time is not a magic eraser which can wipe out history.

To quote Rose Fitzgerald: “It has been said, 'time heals all wounds.' I do not agree. The wounds remain. In time, the mind, protecting its sanity, covers them with scar tissue and the pain lessens. But it is never gone.”